Impressing a girl is easy. VERY easy, when you know what you’re doing. And if you’re not impressing women right now, it’s because you’re listening to advice that misses the most important point.

There’s plenty of shitty dating advice on how to impress a girl floating around the internet. Apparently, the way to impress a girl is:

  • Buy her flowers
  • Take her to expensive restaurants
  • Brag about the important people you know
  • Tell stories about the exciting things you’ve done
  • Learn to be a good listener

Have these worked for people in the past? Sure they have. I’m sure there’s someone who’s bought a girl flowers, or taken her to an expensive restaurant and she’s been impressed.

Will they work for you? No, and here’s why.

Have you ever spent time with someone who you could tell was doing things just to impress you? The kind of person who exaggerates stories, changes the way they talk, even changes the way they act, just to impress you…The kind of person who just reeks of neediness because they’re trying SOOO hard to impress you…

Did you find them impressive? Did you even want to hang out with them? No, I didn’t think so.

Now, flip that around. Think of the most impressive people you know. They ones you hang out with and just think ‘Wow…’ Do they do things just to impress you? Do they change the way they act or talk just to try and change the way you think about them?

No, they do what they want, when they want to, because they want to do it. They’re not worried about what changing the way people think about them because they don’t care whether or not they impress people. The reason that none of these tips on how to impress a girl will work for you is that you’re trying to impress the girl.